Are you the other women?

Now I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has had to make the dreaded "hi this is .... i found a text message from you in my mans phone and i just wanted to know who you were" phone call in her life. Yes i admit it I'm one of those in your face- need to find out why this heffa is calling my man type females.... but of course that was just with one guy- one relationship-period. We've all been through it at least once in our life and if we haven't (damn your lucky) I'm sure a friend of yours has. My question to you is- How do you know if YOUR the other women???




As much as we all like to think it’s ‘casual’ sex or were just dating, it's not that serious.... sex is never ‘casual’. There are always strings involved, whether its emotional or physical there's also an attachment of some sort. Some times the best thing to do is make things clear! Draw the line in bold black ink so tat no one can complain about "blurred vision" or miscommunication. Only have a casual fling if you can handle it- point blank.

As Humans we ALL lie, some do it with reason and some don't. Where do you stand? What do you except? Here are 10 signs that can point to a man that is more "tied up" then he leads you to believe:

10. He leaves the room to answer certain phone calls
-He will always answer a phone call from her because she is #1. Even if he lies about where he is the point is he cares about what she thinks... you on the other hand- he doesn't care if you find is strange that he had to use the bathroom 10 times while you were at a restaurant for an hour.

9. While out shopping with you (if you get that far) he often also picks things up for his "sister"
-Two many lies is never a good thing so he tells her the partial truth, did he go shopping? yes he did and he even picked up a top he thought would look nice on her. Was he alone? hell no but he keeps that part on mute.

8. He only spends time with you on certain days or at a certain time.
-SHES NUMBER 1!!! GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD!! He swings by to see you when she goes to the gym every Friday from 6-8. He never stays on the phone past 10 because that's their time to talk or watch family guy together (yea i said family guy, i love that show!! so what!). It's always a routine and please understand that your only seeing or talking to him because HER schedule allows you to...

7. You catch him with a wedding ring on/ the wall paper on his phone is of a female (not his daughter or someone famous)
- Do i really need to explain this one??

6. You have never met any of his friends or family members
-Homeboy is wifed up and all his friends and family know!! Your non existent to them- it's a different story if you want to introduce him to your friends though...

5. He does not take you to public places or his favorite clubs/bars/ restaurants
-Him and wifey are regulars at Red Lobsters and Benihannas.... so you he takes to apple bees and the burger king across town. He can't risk being caught with you so YES he makes the effort to take you some where far or "exclusive" as he likes to put it.

4.His sexual appetite is umm... lacking
-He has sex on the regular so if he doesn't seem that interested in your new lingerie with the crotch cut it don't be mad...

3.Constantly reminds you that he has a lot of female friends or that he is still close with his ex
- SMH! This is a clear sign that he does not want anything committed right now and this is just something casual for him. Also, this is his way of letting you know not to question him if and when a female calls him. "know your role!" smh

2.He has female things in his car or apartment (i.e lip gloss, pads, hair brush, underwear) and claims that they belong to his sister/family member or his ex.
-Now this sign is not only obvious it's hilarious!! I can't tell you how much of my friends have been through this and cant seem to see the light. I don't know what grown ass man is willing to keep the belongings of his "ex" in his car or apartment. If its really over then throw the ish out and move on. I mean what do they do smell the lip gloss for fun?

1. YOU INSTINCTS!!
- Your instincts are usually 80% right. FOLLOW THEM!